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We have been recording for 6 months now and there is one phrase that we keep

hearing...


TOO MUCH.


Almost every woman we have spoken with recalls being told that she is "TOO"

something. Literally, nearly every single woman that we have asked has recalled the

same phrases:


TOO LOUD.

TOO AGGRESSIVE.

TOO ASSERTIVE.

TOO BIG.

TOO SMALL.

TOO DRAMATIC.

TOO EMOTIONAL.

TOO PRETTY.

TOO, TOO, TOO.


We've been told to tone it down.

To shrink back.

To be less.

To be quiet.


No wonder we have had complicated existences as females. On the one hand, we are

expected to be strong and fierce enough to birth children, run homes, hold down

careers, be everyone's support person, and run the PTA. But on the other hand, we are

told not to show that strength, don't say too much, and don't stand out. Talk about a

mixed message.


Were our brothers given the same message? I don't think so.


Why are we not appreciated for the unique combination of strength and softness that

defines us as women? Is it that we have lived for so long in a misogynistic culture that

feared they would lose their power over us if they appreciated us as the beautiful

creatures we are made to be?


So many of us are still carrying around those "TOO" admonitions in midlife. As grown

women, we have often been held back from being our best and truest selves by words

that were spoken to us as young girls. It's time to throw off those labels. The words that

were spoken to us before we could debate or negate them need to be evaluated

through the lens of truth.


It's time to find your truth. It's time to find out exactly who you are. It's time to live as

your complete self, not being held back by any label, expectation, or restriction. Sweet

lady, time is ticking.


Let's agree to this if you have to be &"too" anything, be TOO FREAKING AMAZING.


Where to start? Here are some options:


-List the labels and evaluate each one for truth. If it isn't true, mark through it. Negate it.

-Make a separate list of the things that you are.

-Write a paragraph or more about your Little Girl Dreams. Who did you imagine yourself

being before others told you who are were? How can you reconnect with that version of

yourself?


-Make a list of things you have always wanted to do and make arrangements to do at

least one of them.


Please email us at midlifemoxiepodcast@gmail.com and let us know about your

experiences with this topic and what you are doing to find your best and truest self.


Belief in you,


Gail

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